I'll begin today’s post with a question.
What form of behavior will a parent showcase; with a case study of the father; that will provoke a child, to seek attempts of escape?
I know you're wondering why the question. It streams from a conversation I had with a friend some days ago. I inquired why he never visited for the holidays after the school sessions ended.
His explanation boiled down to the constant altercations with his father. And to avoid any probable verbal disaffection, the distance was a gainful solution to both parties involved.
This brought into remembrance, a family friend; of the female gender, who moved out of her parents house after she openly informed them; if she was to abide in the same home with her parents, she would not be favorably inclined to marriage. More especially the behavior of her father towards her mother,
And this, is but a few of the life illustrations.
This prodded my source of inquiry. When did family relationships become so hostile, one decides to escape the clutches of the other? When do fathers become so overbearing, they unknowingly encourage daughters or sons to seek refuge in a different apartment?
Or would you say its the fault of the kids who all of a sudden become independent?
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I would say the factors apply to different circumstance, the society of today has developed a sense of over protectiveness in parents, every parent sees the youth of today highly influenced by the decaying society so they feel the need to want to constantly emphasis morals even to its extreme. From the angle of the kids especially the youths of today, the need for independence truely has driven them to seek thier own path and so they rebel against the home they come from and its believes, but charity begins at home so does the battle, if the home is sweet to return tothe youth won't run from it.
ReplyDeleteAnd you caped it up perfectly - if the home is sweet to return to, the youth won't run from it.
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I think we need to make up our minds and create balance. Where there is 'independence' there's some form of pride and the impression of arrogance or lack of respect. Where there's dependence, you have now become a "taaata". So in order not to bring identity or role confusion into the hearts of our children , we need wisdom for a healthy balance.
ReplyDeleteA healthy balance. I buy into that
DeleteNow the issue is how to create such balance without anyone infringing on the other
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ReplyDeletethe child must be provided with religious education, and for parents on the front of the child wearing a front in front of a parent from behind
How does this help?
DeleteThis is a fall out of the generational gap syndrome
ReplyDeleteAnd how can it be rectified? If it should be !!
DeleteThe fall of Agape Relationship between Parents and Children today are from both sides.
ReplyDeleteParents contributes to this menace by not creating a good natural intimacy with their children, some parents always sees the children as ones who are so young of not being wise enough to lead their lives on some basis of self-formulated policies and they feels like their words and policies should prevails over the children and not knowing that not all child grow to have of the nature of living like theirs. Some parents makes excuses of their jobs of not having time to watch over them and ruin the Agape intimacy among them.
The course of the Children is that they take other peoples live as an analogy for living their lives which makes them to think more farther than even what their parents can imagine that they are capable of and will always want to live independently conducting their own affairs in their own ways and taking the rules of the parents to be old school and not allow them to prevail over them while they are still meant to be dependent.
So how can this gap be rectified?
DeleteParents have to keep an extreme friendly relationships with their kids and to always pay listening ears to their thoughts and observations and speaking with taming words.
DeletePaying attention. I think this is a default of most parents.
DeleteExactly, if not, the love of that family fade away.
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DeleteChildren wants to be free. And parents wants to decide the life of there child. Giving your children space will not suddenly turn them bad
ReplyDeleteLet's make a public announcement of that last sentence, please
DeleteWe are in the 21st century, all we do is speed. Parents needs to adapt to this. So you will know when to come in. Without any of issues
ReplyDeleteAdaptation. Correct
DeleteI was a victim, I made moving out my top priority. It finally happened.
ReplyDeleteIt should be that moving out will result into tears
Awww. Thanks for sharing Orji
DeleteMost times, it goes both ways, but we're usually blinded by our so called distorted point of view that we never see things from the other person's perspective. Family is forever so as much as possible, its important to keep on mending.
ReplyDeleteThere are exceptions to this of course. When your family does more harm than good, they aren't really family
Base point: understand each person's point of view.
DeleteFYI: And hope they are ready to understand 🤔 especially those with concrete willpower