Characteristics of Controlling Parents

Dear Lovers,

Yesterday we read about the controlling parents. I am sure we all have our fair share.
Today, we would be talking about the characteristics of controlling parents.
Here are a couple of characteristics a parent might showcase that shows that he or her is extremely too involved in the child's life.

• No dissent. Children aren’t allowed to discuss or disagree. Your word is final. And theirs is irrelevant

• Me I Me I. The child has to ignore or overlook his own desire and follow the parents’ wishes and desires. A parent is supposed to guide the child in achieving his/her own aspirations. They aren’t supposed to become a carbon copy of you. Nor are they expected to live the life you wished you had lived. You have lived your own life. Let them live theirs.

• Conditional love. This is when children have to earn love. Children has to be loved without having to prove themselves. It’s their right.

• Feelings and emotions. Shocking but a normal child is expected to feel varying emotions including fear and anger. Do not discourage them or shrivel them from showing their own emotions. Or else you might have an explosion that will leave you scorched

• No freedom. When you don’t give your child the privacy he/she deserves. Even when everything from their social life to clothes is closely monitored, you are intruding. A more balanced approach should be beneficially introduced before you are termed a stalker and give yourself an early stroke. And shockingly, children are getting more innovative in hiding stuff.

• I’m always right. Never admitting to be wrong. No one is ever always right. We all make mistakes. Accept your faults and failure. It doesn’t make you less of a parent. Instead it increases your value and worth to them.

And peradventure, you are wondering what this intrusive behaviour might cause your child; we are not just talking of immediate repercussions, but a long term one. 

Controlling parents do not mean to harm their child but they inadvertently, end up restricting the child emotional growth and maturity. 

Parents need to relax and let their child discover the world under your gentle guidance and not forceful tutelage.

So far, do let me know what you think.

Tomorrow we would talk about the effects of controlling parents on a child.