Dear Lovers,
Yesterday we read about the controlling parents. I am sure we all have our fair share.
Today, we would be talking about the characteristics of controlling parents.
Here are a couple of characteristics a parent might showcase that shows that he or her is extremely too involved in the child's life.
- No dissent. Children aren’t allowed to discuss or disagree. Your word is final. And theirs is irrelevant
- Me I Me I. The child has to ignore or overlook his own desire and follow the parents’ wishes and desires. A parent is supposed to guide the child in achieving his/her own aspirations. They aren’t supposed to become a carbon copy of you. Nor are they expected to live the life you wished you had lived. You have lived your own life. Let them live theirs.
- Conditional love. This is when children have to earn love. Children has to be loved without having to prove themselves. It’s their right.
- Feelings and emotions. Shocking but a normal child is expected to feel varying emotions including fear and anger. Do not discourage them or shrivel them from showing their own emotions. Or else you might have an explosion that will leave you scorched
- No freedom. When you don’t give your child the privacy he/she deserves. Even when everything from their social life to clothes is closely monitored, you are intruding. A more balanced approach should be beneficially introduced before you are termed a stalker and give yourself an early stroke. And shockingly, children are getting more innovative in hiding stuff.
- I’m always right. Never admitting to be wrong. No one is ever always right. We all make mistakes. Accept your faults and failure. It doesn’t make you less of a parent. Instead it increases your value and worth to them.
Controlling parents do not mean to harm their child but they inadvertently, end up restricting the child emotional growth and maturity.
Parents need to relax and let their child discover the world under your gentle guidance and not forceful tutelage.
So far, do let me know what you think.
Tomorrow we would talk about the effects of controlling parents on a child.
Conditional love.
ReplyDeleteAlot of parents unconsciously do that
And that breeds hatred and n the long run
Deleteactually the parents is responsible for how there children control them - parents attitude with their children’s reflect back later how childrens handle and control parents - If the planting is good, the harvest is good too
ReplyDeleteThe early stage of a child's life is critical. Parents need to be aware of every action
DeleteI mean if parents give all respect to their child they will respect their parents too - if parents very tough their children’s will do same - if Home live in peace and love feelings - parents will gain same from their children’s
DeleteAgreed. You get what you give
DeleteThanks - so what you going to give me 😊😊
DeleteThe negative effects dominance has on a child
DeleteOMG -this what u can give ( The negative effects dominance has on a child ) 🤔🤔🤔 why ?? What wrong
ReplyDeleteIt's the next topic, saddiyi
Deletehmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteA lot of controlling parents out there...but I think it mostly comes from a good place...at least to them.
ReplyDeleteGood talk! 'Their role should be that of guidance'. But don't u think issues like this require a carrot n a stick approach? Sometimes D approach u use for child A might not work for child B please
ReplyDeleteY would you want to treat children differently? It can cause sibling rivalry
DeleteHmmmmmmmm
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