Rejection

When you are rejected, reassure yourself with this:

Rejection is a gift. 

Rejection is an indication that you have outgrown a relationship or realm. 

Don’t get upset when people reject you. 

Rejection should not cause tears.

It should cause joy because the rejected stone becomes the corner stone. 

Meat budgeting

Fed-up of the daily, weekly or bi monthly purchasing of your meat products?

I did too, until I came up with a much easier method that saves time and also minimize cost.

I call it THE MEAT BUDGETING. This is where I buy a large quantity of diverse meat produce, sufficient for a month; cut it in bits and store in the freezer.

Below is a pictorial representation:

Breakfast ideas - Breakfast sussages, eggs and potatoes

 Potatoes fried in real butter with salt, pepper, and topped with a bit of onion; served with breakfast sausages and eggs
 

Words for thought!!!

Who can give a deeper meaning to this sentence ?

“Why are you keeping up with the Kardashians, when the Kardashians should be keeping up with you?”

I wholeheartedly await your replies.

Nigerian Artists - Perfect Dress Models?

In the book, ‘It’s Not Only Rock & Roll’, the author claim that music provides teens with a firm cultural identity. To a large extent, it also defines the way they act, dress and speak. We have famous music artists icons influencing teens and youths lifestyle; though often not in a positive way.

  I watched a musical video; DeBarge - Rhythm of the Night (1985) where everybody was conservatively garbed.

However, in present times, a large percentage of the musical videos broadcast on our daily television, the ladies are all but completely nude; while the men have their trousers half way down their asses.

And worse of, international companies as well as the government, endorse this people, rewarding them for their meaningless lyrics and partially clothed bodies.

 Unsurprisingly, teenagers and youths observe the behaviours as morally acceptable; as role models to emulate.

And then we ask ourselves where moral decadence of the society springs forth?

If our society praise and see this artists as upstanding individuals, then I see no need for anyone to get judgemental about the near nakedness we see on the streets donned on by our teenagers and youths alike.

You desire a positive modification, change who you depict to the society as positive role models.

Musical lyrics

The notion that the lyrics of a song can influence your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, probably doesn’t come as much of a surprise. If you’ve ever felt pumped up or been moved to tears by music, then you easily understand the power of music to impact moods and even inspire emotion.

It was even suggested that your taste in music can provide insight into different aspects of your personality. Therefore, I think it’s paramount that for us to be inspired positively, we must listen to the right lyrics.

Music affects our behaviour, psychology and reality perception. In his book ‘change your brain, change your life,’ Dr. Daniel Amen explains that regular listening of some types of music can be a door to a person’s mind and his feelings. According to Dr. Daniel Amen, teenagers, who listen to music with negative content, very often end up in rehab centres.

Remember how lullabies lured us to sleep; effectively shows music affects our behaviour. Music is a powerful tool to affect peoples behaviour so it must be carefully used to produce a positive effect.

Music can be inspiring. Music can be soothing and calming. But music can destruct us in a way we cant even imagine. Every piece of music has it own identity and personality. Lyrics of songs that advocate substance use, usually also refer to violence and sex themes, generate negative ideas and may have respective consequences.

A vivid example is this song sang by Lil Kesh and Olamide;

‘I dey pray to jesuu (jesuu) ko wo wole (kowo wole o)

If money no enter I go do blood money o….

I dey pray to Allah (Allah)

Kowo wole o… (kowo wole o)

If money no enter I go do blood money o.’

Dear readers, what's the theme of this song? Especially  to our Nigerian youths and teenagers?

Oldies vs Current

Apologizes for the break in transmission. I was on a family vacation; celebrating my parents birthday. And my laptop and Ipad was ruefully discarded.

We’re resuming with a rattling issue everyone loves and virtually cant do without. And what's it?

Music. 

I prefer oldies to the new generational music streamed out nowadays. As I believe oldies carry more significance.

So, my beloved readers; what’s your preference in regards to the songs of the 70’s, 80’s and 90’s; to those played in recent times.  

Happy new Year

Wishing all our readers and subscribers a happy and prosperous new year.

New Year Resolutions - And Achieving them

Ever wondered why we end up never achieving most of our New Year resolutions? Prior to this day, most people attempt to forget their bad experiences and start things afresh with a new bunch of resolutions and promises. Yet, most see the end of the year without accomplishing any of the set down aspirations.

Firstly you need to understand that nothing you plan to do in 2019 will materialize until you realize that the real change doesn’t happen at midnight on December 31^st. It has to happen right now in your heart. So whatever aspirations and goals you’ve planned for the new year, you might as well start working on them now.

However, I’ve come up with a routine that will aid in the achievement of our new goals for the coming twelve-month.

1. Stop procrastinating. The biggest barrier that keeps most people from reaching their goals is the desire to relax and do something fun instead of working hard. (For me, its candy crush). So we’ll need to put in a lot of work to change this bad habit.

2. Meet new people. Meeting new people can be beneficial to your mental well-being and aid your career. It also provides the opportunity to network and have fun instead of staying morose at home. So don’t be afraid to get out there are make new friends.

3. Become more active. Rather than staying all day hunched in front of the screen of your mobile phone or television, find ways of moving around more throughout the day. You might actually loose some of the body weight you’ve been contending with.

4. Become more confident. If you’re confident, people will notice and it becomes much more easier to have your opinion heard. So stowaway shyness, speak up and take chances.

5. Earn more money. Even billionaires are looking for ways to earn more money. You can learn a skill, work as a freelancer or use the internet to a positive advantage.

6. Be more polite. Good manners make it easier to connect with others and ensure people view you as a good and trust-wordy person.

7. Go see your doctor more often. Regular check-ups are a must, no matter how healthy you feel at the moment.  

Does this seem feasible? 

playing the victim

Ladies, are you curious to why you only attract ‘boys’ who are only interested in taking advantage of you?

Here’s a question - What are you projecting?

Are you projecting weakness; playing the victim or are you projecting strength?

Lets deviate a little. When carnivores animals go hunting, do you know who they target? They search for the weak ones and not the strong one who most assuredly will give them a tough time.

Similarly the shark. What attracts the shark? The scent and trail of blood.

Now off from the animal planet, and back to the human world. We should understand that the world is only impressed with strength. You show them weakness and they will trample all over you.

Yes, you’ve been hurt, sexually abused and preyed upon by immature men. Yes I know how painful it must be - the heartbreak, the shame, the hurt, the vanquishing self esteem. But don’t go off sprouting the unfortunate tale to everyone who’s ready to listen. You’re just making yourself more malleable to the wrong set of people.

Pick yourself up. Cry a river. But the next day, clean up your face and forge ahead.  

There’s a law of unintended consequences for every action you take. So if you think that piping out what you’ve been through to every guy you meet and that will get you in their good books, you might be right.

And you might also be very wrong .

So pipe down and see a psychiatrist instead of unconsciously feeding yourself to men who only see you as easy prey. Rather than showcasing weakness, display strength. Yes, we know its been an excruciating occurrence and you might need to talk to someone.

Let that person be a psychiatrist.

And one of the counsel from a psychiatrist is, ‘never propagate the issue.’ Speak out, but speak to the right ear.

Daily Pointers for a sucessful life.

The above picture/word post, is a valuable itinerary for a new year.

Who doesn't agree?

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Merry Christmas in arrears and a wonderful new year in advance to our adorable readers and subscribers. 

So Yesterday, I listened to a recording from a mentor and I noted down some specific pointers I intended to share and also; as usual, inquire your point of view.

'Guys who milk girls off their money, don’t milk off the strong ones. If they ask you to loan them money, two weeks into the relationship, know they are frauds - especially if it’s in relation to an unknown business. You keep doing that, they milk all your money.

They can come and say - ‘you know I just began work and I just need a few cash.

And you will go and borrow!

There’s no real man that will date a lady and ask a dime from that lady. 

Now, if you’re doing that, you aren’t a man. How can you start dating and in two weeks you start saying you don’t have?’ 

Dear readers, what’s your view concerning this? Kindly drop your comments and opinions in the comment box.

Proposal bait

A friend of mine shared this with me. I want to share, to warn the ladies who are  desperate for the ring on their finger, they forget their self worth.

Here’s what she wrote.

‘Precisely on Thursday, a male acquaintance who I haven’t seen in months and only encountered a sum total of five times - and note; only business transactions.

Now some people might term me high standard or proud but I think this dude was just full of shit (forgive the terminology)

So back to my story, this guy who I met through a primary school friend of mine, gives me a call. I think its business related, so I concede when he asks if I’m home.

However, when he arrives, the first question that pops out of his mouth (after he’d asked me to cook for him. Of course I declined) was; ‘Would you marry me?’

Apart from being stunned, weird me burst into gales of laughter because I have no idea where that proposal was coming from.

Mr weirdo then asks me if I’m expecting him to go down on one knee before I give him a positive response. And that system was old school.

And when I’m finally able to reign myself in, I frankly reject his proposal.

Then weirdness of weirdness, he decides the alternate route would be to sell himself or should I say market his sexual attributes.

First of, he started by saying he selected me because of my shrewd mind, business intellect and ability to stay afloat in financial situations. And that sitting close to me was turning him on; making him tempted to lift me up, turn me and begin to rut me from behind. Explaining how his ex girlfriend, who has a current boyfriend, still came to him for sex because he was the only one who could make her orgasm and squirt too. Due to his big dick and how he could go on for hours none stop. And he wasn’t just bragging about it.

I stared at him agape, wondering if he was expecting me to congratulate him on his prowess or fall at his feet in awe.

Oh and then he asked me if I was turned on, so we could turn it up a notch. And if I was agreeable to sperm swallowing.

When I refused his numerous offerings, he went ahead to tell me that I was too rigid and that I should let down the walls I’ve built around me. Saying I was weird and needed medical attention as I wasn’t turned on by what he’d just spewed.

With that, I let him out of the compound, with instructions never to let him in again. Mind you, we were sitting on a bench, outside of the house o. Imagine what would have happened if I invited him into the house?

Happy for foresight!

Readers, always differentiate between a boy who wants a sex doll and the man who want commitment. ladies, keep your integrity intact!
photo credit: jared