Years back, I was led to believe sex got boring after an extended period of marriage.
The experts (matured married women) explained sexual drive shrives up and becomes so inconsequential in marriage, in which both parties could go for weeks and months without having sexual intercourse. So the hype placed on sex is mere fallacy.
However, yesterday, I was re-informed, from another mature source; People don’t get tired of sex in marriage. They however, get bored of their partners, thus the shriveled up sex drive.
The source was of the opinion that marriage is all about building a life together and looking after each others needs. And sex is a big part of those needs. Therefore, sex in marriage only diminishes when you loose interest in each other and not due to boredom or overdose of sex in marriage.
My opinion? The second information is more realistic.
What’s yours?
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Sex definitely does not have to get boring in a long-term marriage. As the years go by, your sex life should get better. You both know each other so well by now. ... Chores, kids, finances and so on can put a damper on the romance.
ReplyDeleteAnd how to undampen the damper - chores, kids and so on?🤔
DeleteVery true.
DeleteI think what the people actually meant by boring here is doing the same thing over and over again. That's why it's good for couples to spice up their sex life from time to time viz: outing, serial honeymoon, clubing, sexual positions, etc. Another reason I think again has to do with getting preoccupied or engaged with so many things as the marriage continue to grow family wise.
ReplyDeleteSo how would you propose they spice it up when kids come in?
DeleteSex is not supposed to diminish in marriage, with continuous love, affection,and trust among the couples, is a life time enjoyment. Marriage is not all about sex though.
ReplyDeleteI get that. They just have to be innovative to ensure the life time of enjoyment
DeleteDefinitely the 2nd one
ReplyDeleteOh yes dear
Deletesex in the marriage does not end.
ReplyDeleteA continuous process?🤔
DeleteIt depends on both of them
ReplyDeleteThey have to determine that
DeleteI believe that happens because both couples are not constantly dating themselves even in marriage. By doing so they will keep the fire and sparks burning
ReplyDeleteContinuous dating. I like the sound of that
DeleteContinuous dating. I like the sound of that
DeleteSex is a game of body, heart and mind...if the mind becomes disinterested it degrades and becomes lesser and lesser...the reasons why this happens is not short of the simple reason that a plant left unattended or over used withers away .. I think couples shouldn't expect sex to be a constance spice in thier marriage...sex in its pure sense isn't for pleasure but for procreation...but if its for the pleasure, couples should alway observe due benevolence with what they bring to the table....that is, they must be willing to give thier body, heart and mind to it...if one is lacking from the side of both parties then it is incomplete and whatever is incomplete in its nature is soon to pass away.
ReplyDeleteSex in it's pure sense isn't for pleasure but for procreation ? Please I need facts about this
DeleteSex is also for pleasure amongst couples. It's meant to be enjoyed.
DeleteThank you jor
DeleteWhen God designed sex, he designed it for more than one singular thing. From what I know Sex was designed for procreation (to multiply) as you have mentioned, he designed it for companionship amongst couples, it's also for spiritual connection between them and God (this is deep and I've heard and learnt a lot from couples testimonies about this wonderful mystery).
ReplyDeleteSex is meant to be enjoyed so therefore it's not primarily bored. What can make you bored of anything is when you don't have interest in that thing, or you've lost the passion or drive for it, when you take the intending results for granted.
Sex needs to be explored and new discoveries need to be shared. It's only that way, you never get bored.
Please how is it a spiritual connection between couples and God?
DeleteAsk any married person especially a minister of God, they'll have something interesting to tell you. A married woman interview she said when her husband is broke and he his praying for a breakthrough, sometimes he asks for sex and she admitted that after they have sex she notices a change in his state of condition and afterwards a breakthrough shows up. Maybe a Minister of God you are close to, can shed more light to that
DeleteAlright then
DeleteCouples need to reignite the Love for their partner from time to time. Distractions, issues of Life, Kids, Chores, Work can reduce time for one another but time can still be redeemed. Take or create other times: vacations, rest/off days, leave the kids with grandparents or relatives, clining and yes like someone said Dating (couples ball & social outings) can help re ignite Love and passion. Therapy can help understand sex and sexually related issues.
ReplyDeleteThe options are endless.
I think the onus lies on both spouses to determine what route their marriage or sex life takes.
ReplyDeleteBut what does a single lady like me know💁
Hmmmm. Still appreciate the comment @Chioma
DeleteNice one .
ReplyDeleteI think it's the romance and not the sex
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