Maintaining a good relationship with your kids

The relationship between parents and their teenagers keep deteriorating daily particularly in this present global generation. It is very important for parents to maintain a very good, solid and close relationship with their teenagers. Most teenagers now especially from the age of thirteen to seventeen already feel independent and want to start making decisions by themselves and don’t want their parents tailor guiding them as thought they were still little kids. 

However, it is important to still monitor your children because this is their critical stage of life. Whatever they get accustomed to at that point becomes very difficult to leave or unattached from latter on in life. The teenage age is not the period where a parent becomes overly stern or bossy with your child because at that age, you can either bring them close to you, become best of friends or push them so far away becoming almost like strangers. 

Parents need to be hard, yet soft; firm yet malleable. Above all parents should be the closest of friends to their children, owing to the fact that the outside world is completely and almost corrupt, it will be beneficial to the parents to be much closer to their kids so as to be able to guide and not force them in the right steps. Each child is unique with his or her own vision. Times are changing and what could be obtained in the olden days as morals then has been flushed down the toilet in this modern age. 

Teenagers do possibly get very frustrated that they cannot “test their wings.” Parents need to allow their teens more independence by gradually “letting the rope out.” Most parents want to rule and dominate each process of their child growth, thinking they are helping the child but alas you are slowly, steadily and unconsciously destroying the child self esteem and independence. If a young plant is always crowed by the parent matured plants, it can’t germinate properly. It will die from stagnation, miniature nutrient, and congestion. 

Tomorrow, we will consider ways in which parents can maintain a good relationship with their kids 

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