Does his buoyant bank account make him a good husband material?

I think the men weren’t put on the spotlight on the prior article; Does being a virgin make her a good wife material?

 Still on the relationship issue, I think the ladies have a choice to make when it comes to deciding who they want to spend the rest of their lives with. (forever isn’t a shallow thing)

Funny enough, I have heard some single sisters say before they would even agree to go on a date with a guy, he must have the following;

Firstly, he must own car

And secondly, he must live in a well furnished two bedroom apartment at least. 

And with those two wonderful attributes, he is Mr. Right to her and her friends. We cant talk virginity here because there is no way to prove that.

However, I wonder how the cash and car is even an attractive feature. What if he spends on you, yet is a brute who lost his punching bag and decides to make you the alternate choice? Or peradventure he is so overly generous with his financial endowment and decides to share the love with other women?  

To me, I think the most important is how the man see you - As a human being or an object!

Readers and subscribers; drop in your two cents.

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Is Sex Boring in Marriage?

Years back, I was led to believe sex got boring after an extended period of marriage.

The experts (matured married women) explained sexual drive shrives up and becomes so inconsequential in marriage, in which both parties could go for weeks and months without having sexual intercourse. So the hype placed on sex is mere fallacy.

However, yesterday, I was re-informed, from another mature source; People don’t get tired of sex in marriage. They however, get bored of their partners, thus the shriveled up sex drive. 

The source was of the opinion that marriage is all about building a life together and looking after each others needs. And sex is a big part of those needs. Therefore, sex in marriage only diminishes when you loose interest in each other and not due to boredom or overdose of sex in marriage.

My opinion? The second information is more realistic.

What’s yours?

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Does being a virgin make her a good wife material?

Yesterday I had a very interesting conversation with my friend. (FYI, she doesn’t know how much ideas she pops into my head through our chitchats. Thanks babe, you are the best.)

So the whole gist was mostly on relationships and society views; especially Nigeria’s ideology that a good wife material sterns from this vine:

Firstly she must be a virgin;

And secondly, she must be a good cook.
Therefore, concluding that a non virgin and a bad cook is a terrible woman who isn’t wife material worthy.

And with those two attributes intact, she is seen as the symbol of perfection in the eyes of everyone who gaze upon her.

While it’s very commendable to ladies who have the self control and discipline to stay away from sexual relations until marriage; however, I agree with my friend, those attributes isn’t a major criteria why a lady should be seen as a wholesome candidate to be termed, wife material.

And to the why I’m in support of this point of view, is why attach importance to just one single thing, or should I say two single things?

The question she asked was; Does being a virgin purge you from all other weird behaviours? A lady can cook all the dishes in the whole wide world yet be self centred, hot tempered, contemptuous or just so plain ridiculous; she’s intolerable.

In summary, we came to the conclusion that, one characteristic, doesn’t qualify you; its an all round thing.

Readers and subscribers; drop in your two cents.

Child Abuse - Thug Life

Hey everyone, today I decided to share this poem written by my good friend. The poem gives a perfect expository on CHILD ABUSE; a topic I’m so passionate about and seek to advocate a change.

Read and Enjoy

 

Thug Life By 4to_scenethesis

Innocence is drowned in the hype,
Acquiring money, fast cars, and pricey degradables
to please the ego Life's essence must die.
Jezebel flaunts big boobs and twerk booty
in loose cloths not fit for the Empress,
If she makes it clap with no hands
Perverted fuckboys, and serial rapist
will follow her and gift her a ton of likes
All she has is her fading body and a phone full of pictures
Her ways are praised for she slays.

Satan clads in ripped clothes, gold chains and ill manners
He flashes the Benz, gold chains, foreign rags and vanity's vanishing lavish lifestyle
saying i got this, i got that
for him to be noticed,
All he has is debt and a bunch of fake friends,
his ways they worship because he trends
crossdressers too are trending now.
These are uncensored subliminal messages
they feed the infant,
Over the likes and comments
Infants drink poison.
fame is an opium for the glutton
everyone is fixing to get thiers, little infant too

The mother sends her little infant
Into the paedophiles den
To seek solace from the reign of poverty,
And slave for her daily bread
night after night, when her day is done,
they sneak into her room
To feast on her flesh
turn by turn, they pass the cup
of her virgin blood
swallowing her life as a dessert.
pleading for justice from the rotten eggs
on behalf of the spilled milk
The bloody hypocrites begin to talk, match and posts till it trends
The issue today, as become silent as death,
paedophiles still stalk the streets
To prey on the vulnerable and weak
The seed we bury,
grows and blows up in our face
Its fruits shall not be fit for consumption

Spirituality VS Religion

Religion, according to Google is a pursuit or interest followed by great devotion.

Spirituality according to Google is the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

Quick Question - 

Do you think the bane of contention in the African Society; with a case study of Nigeria, is we are more Spiritually inclined or Religious?

Or is it in reverse?

And which is actually the right path to cave a better present and future home for ourselves and our generation yet unborn.

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What is the purpose of religion?

I understand religious institutions can’t affect political decisions. Yet, in a real sense, they should be able to influence people to create the much needed positive change…. since they have the power to influence the minds of the people to believe whatever they teach.

Therefore I would like to start with the question:

What has been the positive influence of religion since it washed up on our shores? Has it made Africa better or is the outcome in reverse. Has religion actually helped to build better self sustaining homes or has it built a dependent family and nation?????

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If you could turn back the hands of time.....

While trolling through Facebook, I came across the above post.
Readers and Subscribers, be honest. Which would you truly go for?
And Why?????

Seafood Bean-cakes, Mushroom and Chicken stripes Puff Pastry, Garlicky Sautéed chicken wings

Ingredients

Half derica of brown beans

One medium sized onions

Olive oil

Dried prawns

Three bell peppers

One glove Garlic

One glove of ginger

One large egg 

Salt 

Flour

Butter

Sugar

Three large eggs

Mushrooms

Milk

Chicken strips

Cocoa powder

Four Chicken wings

Black pepper

Powdered Garlic

Salt

² The seafood Bean-cakes, Mushroom and Chicken strips Puff Pastry; and Garlicky Sautéed Chicken wing is a highly nutritious meal. All ingredients are fresh and proportioned for four full meals.

u The chicken wings are thoroughly cleaned

u Glaze both sides of the chicken wings with unsalted butter

u Sprinkle on black pepper, salt, Garlic

u Cover up in foil and grill for 35 minutes.

u Using a mixer, mix your butter and sugar until a smooth paste

u Pour in your egg white into the mixture.

u Pour in the milk. Mix for a minute

u Add the flour to the mixture.

u Mix, until it’s creamy

u Pour out your mixture into two greased rectangular pans

u Glaze the first with mushroom. Coat it with cocoa powder

u Glaze the second with chicken strips. Coat it with egg yolk

u Bake for 30 minutes, at 400 degrees

u The beans is unshelled, peeled and washed

u The prawns are washed are set aside

u Dice your washed bell peppers, onion, garlic and ginger into thin strands

u Then the peeled beans, prawns, carrots and washed bell peppers is blended into a smooth thickened paste.

u Turn mixture into a bowl

u Mix thoroughly for five minutes

u Add egg and salt into the mixture

u Set aside

u Pour in half inch olive oil in a medium pan or skillet over medium heat.

u Using a deep spoon, scoup out the mixture into the pan

u Fry till golden brown.

u Then turn other side. Fry till golden brown.

u Once all Bean-cakes are fried, set aside to cool in a strainer.

² The Seafood Bean-cakes, Mushroom and Chicken stripes Puff Pastry and Garlicky Sautéed Chicken wing is plated.

² And it is all prepared in less than an hour, thirty minutes

Eleven simple etiquettes the African Man expects from his wife

1. Nothing is more attractive and fulfilling to us, as a woman who respect us.

2. We know we might never always be right, but don’t contradict us in public. It wounds our ego.

3. Remember the Yoruba Tv show? Olobe lo lo oko; Shoko yo ko to. Meaning - The person when get soup, na she get husband. Do we dear say more?

PS. Diversify in meals and enhance enticing presentation.

4. Helpmate also include help in family financial issues like house-rent, foodstuffs, children school fees e.t.c. Especially when our finances aren’t strong enough to meet the needs.

5. The age of tying wrapper to bed is outdated. There is a reason Victoria Secrets keeps revealing new lingerie for women. Butt naked also works. (FYI)

6. A wife who initiates sex in multiple variety, is a big turn on.

7. At the alter, it was stated; two becomes one. Meaning no gossiping our problematic issues with your friends and family members. Trust us.

8. In as much as you want us to lavish attention on you, we require the same. We are like puppies. Compliment and pet us, we will forever be faithful to you.

9. There is something intricately sexy about a woman who takes good care of herself in all ramifications. In as much as you are married doesn’t mean you should forget the fashion sense that got us attracted to you.

Yes, we understand that the babies are the cause of the flattened breasts. However, there is a reason why push-up bras, were invented

10. Inquire about our business systems and work. This will spark up conversations and chats.

11. Surprise us, (once in a while) by doing something enticingly shocking (in a good way).

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Different Shades of Plantain meals

 1. Ripened Plantain; served with egg sauce and chicken sausage

 2. Ripened Plantain; served with seafood vegetables

3. Unripen plantain curls; served with Seafood vegetables

4. Unripe Plantain ; served with Pomo vegetables

Dear readers, so how do you like your Plantain meals?

Ten simple etiquettes the African woman expects from her husband

1. Assist in carrying luggage and groceries. Weaker vessels is in relation to physical strength.

2. Say ‘well-done’ when we are busy in the kitchen and say ‘Thank you’, after each meal is consumed. It makes us feel appreciated and cherished.

3. Assist with household chores and cooking of meals. Helpmate goes both ways.

4. In as much as we are expected to tolerate your excesses; we too deserve such allowances.

5. Our stretch-marks, fallen breasts and extra flesh is due to the children we bore for you. So avoid comparison with when we were still young and not conceiving. (we don’t complain of the extra pound of flesh where your abs should have been)

6. When we say no to your sexual advances in bed, at night; understand that we do not mean to turn you down out of spite. We are fagged out after: Coming back from our daily jobs, then cleaning; cooking; taking care of the kids, grocery shopping, amidst others. If you help out, things will be done much quicker and assuredly, we will be coming to bed, more energized.

7. Do not make us cry. It has a negative spiritual implication on you.

8. Remember being the HEAD of the home isn’t only by word of mouth and gender. Its by actions.

9. Do not let your family relatives molest us. It makes you look weak and devalued.

10. Whenever you are tempted to hit us, due to misplaced aggravation; remember, we’re the ones who cook your meals. And the one who’s right beside you when you are asleep on the bed. (No harm intended!)

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Perverts Reverse Psychology Alert 101

Female Teenagers; A collection of dialogues to show your family relation of the male gender, is a first grade pervert. (using a university setting as a case study)

Dialogue one

Early in the evening

A wide shot of the university gate. Undergraduates walking in and out of the school premises. Cuts to a car zooming close, then parking adjacent of the school gate. A close up shot of the man driving the car. He picks up his phone from the seat beside him, scrolls through his contact list, selects the number he wants and dials.

Uncle: Yes, I’m outside the gate. (peers through the review mirror) No, I cant see you. (sigh) No. What are you wearing? A red blouse and blue Jean? Yes the black Jeep.

Cuts to a teenager who approaches the car from behind, a mobile phone, held against her eat.

Teenager: (peeps through the window of the car) Uncle?

Uncle: (stares dumbfounded) You? (disconnects the call as he climbs out of the car.) Whoa! (His eyes rakes her form) You look so different. The last time I saw you, you were like this small (demonstrates with hands)

Teenager: (chuckles)

Uncle: Come and give me a hug (wraps arms about her in a tight hug) Hum mm. (releases her from the hug) I can even feel your boobs. When did you start growing breasts?

Teenager: Ah, uncle

Uncle: I could feel them pressing over my arm. Nice changes. Hope you are not letting all this small boys press them. In fact, I need to inspect them to make sure they are still standing erect? You know I have to take care of you. This is just one of the ways. I have to ensure that everything is still proper and set.

Dialogue two

A close up of Uncle dropping off his teenage niece at her hostel after she’d visited his family. He pulls the car to a stop some kilometres to her house.

Teenager: (stares in amazement) Fuel?

Uncle: (shakes his head) No. I noticed something.

Teenager: (sober) What did I do? Is it Aunt? Is it because I refused to sleep over. I told her I had a test tomorrow and I still have a couple of pass…

Uncle: Its not that. It’s just - (sigh wearily) - I had a quarrel with my wife. For over two days now and she has not allowed me into the bedroom. I sleep in the guest-room.

Teenager: (puzzled) okay

Uncle: Yes. And I don’t want to cheat on her, so I want you to help me out.

Teenager: (eyes widen). How?

Uncle: Lets make out. Kiss and small romance. Nothing heavy. Just help me out. I don’t want to cheat. Do this for your uncle. Or do you want me to go and look for another woman? That’s cheating and I don’t want to cheat. So help me out. Please. There is nothing wrong in helping out a family member.

Third dialogue

A long shot of uncle and his teenage niece in the small one room apartment where he’d come to visit her. He’s sitting on the single plastic chair in front of the reading table stacked with books. His niece is sitting, cross-legged on the bed, eating suya; courtesy, Uncle.

Uncle: So how are lectures?

Teenager: (Swallows the munched meat) Good. Very different from secondary school.

Uncle: And the boys?

Teenager: What boys?

Uncle: (tsks) Don’t tell me no boy has been disturbing you. I saw that boy who dropped off a text book, when I came in.

Teenager: (laughs, slurping water) He’s just my course-mate, uncle. Nothing there. You know I don’t have time for boys. I’m just in 100 level. I need to focus on my studies.

Uncle: (stares speculatively) So you’re still a virgin?

Teenager: (chokes on the meat she’s about to swallow) Uncle!

Uncle: (unabashed) What? (Shakes his head) I don’t believe you. I need proof. If you say you are still a virgin with all the boys I can see around you then I want proof. I’ll check with my finger. Just one finger, Except you’re lying and no longer a virgin; that’s when you will refuse. If you’re really the book worm you’re professing to be, then let me confirm. Just one finger.  

In conclusion, BE WATCHFUL and BEWARE

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