playing the victim

Ladies, are you curious to why you only attract ‘boys’ who are only interested in taking advantage of you?

Here’s a question - What are you projecting?

Are you projecting weakness; playing the victim or are you projecting strength?

Lets deviate a little. When carnivores animals go hunting, do you know who they target? They search for the weak ones and not the strong one who most assuredly will give them a tough time.

Similarly the shark. What attracts the shark? The scent and trail of blood.

Now off from the animal planet, and back to the human world. We should understand that the world is only impressed with strength. You show them weakness and they will trample all over you.

Yes, you’ve been hurt, sexually abused and preyed upon by immature men. Yes I know how painful it must be - the heartbreak, the shame, the hurt, the vanquishing self esteem. But don’t go off sprouting the unfortunate tale to everyone who’s ready to listen. You’re just making yourself more malleable to the wrong set of people.

Pick yourself up. Cry a river. But the next day, clean up your face and forge ahead.  

There’s a law of unintended consequences for every action you take. So if you think that piping out what you’ve been through to every guy you meet and that will get you in their good books, you might be right.

And you might also be very wrong .

So pipe down and see a psychiatrist instead of unconsciously feeding yourself to men who only see you as easy prey. Rather than showcasing weakness, display strength. Yes, we know its been an excruciating occurrence and you might need to talk to someone.

Let that person be a psychiatrist.

And one of the counsel from a psychiatrist is, ‘never propagate the issue.’ Speak out, but speak to the right ear.